To her, this said everything you needed to know about how horrible the breakup had been: a guy she loved and trusted had dumped her with a worn-out routine.
It's basically an offer to walk away without any self-doubt and quickly move on. Whether you're just checking out friends of friends on Facebook, lining up a date for the weekend on Ok Cupid, or looking for a future husband on Match.com, finding love online can get just as intense and confusing as the real thing.
In this long-overdue post about online dating from the guy perspective, I'll list four simple rules to give you the best chance at finding love -- or whatever else you're looking for -- when you start online.
I've wanted to write this post for a long time, but it's been two weeks since I first sat down to write it and I've kept agonizing over it.
So picking up where I left off, I've put together a practical, step-by-step guide, from the guy perspective, explaining what to do when guys send mixed signals. What if you just want to tank a budding relationship, to really make it go down in flames?
Or maybe you're a little more reasonable and you actually do want things to work out with a guy -- but you think it would be helpful to have a list of to refer to. In fact, my idea for this post seemed so off-putting that I really wanted to get it right, so I started by polling my panel of sensitive-but-manly guy friends to get their lists of least attractive traits in a woman, and worked from that.
What follows is our collective wisdom distilled into a countdown of the top five least attractive traits in a woman: A friend and longtime reader just wrote because she's dating again and facing a dilemma. And when does he lose points for splitting the bill, or for letting you pay instead?Tradition has it that the guy pays for the first date, but should you still offer to split the bill? In a recent e-mail, a reader complained to me that a guy had broken up with her using the "it's not you, it's me" line.I've been fielding a lot of blog questions recently about friends with benefits (FWB) relationships.Circumstances vary, but the situation usually plays out the same way: you get into a friends with benefits understanding with a guy, it seems like it might become something more, and then it ends with you getting hurt.My previous post about guys sending mixed signals remains one of the most read on this blog, and it's the topic I receive the most questions about.But while that post used some great examples from readers (along with the advice I gave them), I've always felt like there's more to say.