by Ron Louis & David Copeland Have you ever had a woman you were interested in say "Oh, I'm not dating right now"?You've probably been blown off with that very statement, and felt small and powerless.
The truth is this; If you are not dating, it is for one reason, and one reason only: You are not dating because it feels too emotionally risky.
There are two main reasons you aren't willing to risk dating right now.
Sometimes dating seems too risky because you are too emotionally tender to take any risk at all.
You might have just had a difficult break-up, for instance.
After that, ANY risk will seem like "too much" risk, and you just have to take time off and heal.
More often, though, a recent break-up is NOT the reason dating seems too risky, and you stay alone.You probably decided how risky dating is, and what is "too risky" in dating, a long time ago.Accepting that not dating is a choice gives you the ability to take the next step.If you are lonely, yet still choosing to not date, there is probably a GOOD reason for it.Most of the time, though, you will default to BAD explanations of why you are not dating.Fundamentally, you will tell yourself some variation of "I suck." Do any of these explanations sound familiar?