And you’re going to have to start focusing on what it is you CAN CONTROL – your own thinking and behavior (as scary and difficult as that sounds).One of the things that will help you not just with men but in your life in general is to remember this: “seek to understand and you'll be understood.” In other words, step outside of your own ego and experience, and see what it's like to be the other person in your relationship and how they experience you. When he feels that it's okay for him to say something and that you won't get dramatic because of it, he'll not only connect with you – he'll be emotionally attracted to you at a deeper level.This is an incredibly valuable skill for creating and sharing a loving, lasting relationship. But think about how amazing it feels when someone really “gets” you. Most women think that if they can get some understanding about the words, the actions, and the emotions that take place between them and a man that they can figure out how to make things work. But the truth is that if you don’t know what’s going on beneath the surface - inside his mind and his heart – then you’re not going to be able to get to the “essence” of what’s really going on inside a man.
While she wouldn’t give up much during a recent interview with Hot 97’s Peter Rosenberg and Laura Stylez, she did agree that Russell is the anomaly when compared to the “rebel” and “street boy” types she has dated in the past.
Check out some highlights from her interview below.
I’m just saying I moved at my timing for me and I’m moving at my timing that works for me.
As much as this seems to be completely bizarre, unexplainable, and ridiculous, it’s not.
Let me shed some light on what’s going on here with men to save you a lot of time, heartache and frustration.
Men don’t suddenly change their minds about whether or not they want to be with a woman – although it sure seems this way to a lot of women whose relationships fall apart.The truth is, when a woman is caught completely off-guard upon learning that a man’s feelings and desire to be with her have changed, it’s often because she wasn’t AWARE of the way her own thinking and behavior were slowly but surely changing his feelings. You might either feel annoyed at me for saying this, or you might really feel annoyed at your past relationship and the man in it for not appreciating you or for abandoning you. I get that men can do some pretty crappy things and handle them in even crappier ways with you. Unless you want to keep repeating the same mistakes in your life – and re-living the same painful situations with men – you’re going to have to forget about what it is that a man might think or do that is beyond your control.You know, especially after my son, I have to be very aware of him more than anything.Every decision I make in my life—I can’t always make In life, for me, everything is about timing. You see things one way during a certain time period.Again, I’ve been able to have my experiences and learn from them and figure out the things that really work for me and are best for me. I don’t want it to seem like I’m saying anything against anyone that I’ve been with in my life because I have nothing bad to say about anybody.If you’ve been in a relationship or two that didn’t end well, then there’s something important I’m sure you’ve already learned: that men can be close to you, share love and affection, and then quickly turn away or leave altogether for what seems like no good reason at all.