I’m sure you’ve wondered if being friends first is really the best path to a lasting relationship.The overlap in what we want from both friends and partners is actually quite significant.In a poll conducted for the women’s website handbag.com, 83% of female participants believed that a purely platonic friendship could exist between men and women.
If couples are friends first, however—or have simply known each other for awhile—they are more likely to be mismatched when it comes to physical attractiveness.
In other words, time really make a person more attractive.
That conclusion seems fairly logical, but it’s pretty interesting how often this concept appears to play out in the real world.
To study how time affects who people choose to date, researchers from the University of Texas at Austin and Northwestern University looked at 167 couples—67 of which were dating and 100 of which were married.
Each couple was asked to complete a questionnaire asking how long they had known each other, how long they had been romantic, and whether or not they were friends The couples were also interviewed on camera in a lab, where they were asked to discuss how much they had changed since the beginning of their relationship.
The videos allowed researchers adept in “coding” physical attractiveness to rate the couples’ looks (for science).Some coders saw the couples together and gave each partner an attractiveness score; other coders rated only one person at a time, while the person’s partner was covered on the screen.It seems that physical attraction is often a byproduct of a concrete and strong companionship.Although not all friendships turn into a relationship, it’s very important to connect on a friendship basis, before diving into a relationship.Take a look at these 7 reasons why being friends first will help build a healthy and lasting relationship.Well, according to new research, there’s a reason for these couplings: Men and women are more likely to match with someone at their same “hotness” level if they start dating soon after meeting.