Researchers surveyed 4,000 men and women aged 18 to 70-plus and asked them how attractive they found photos of members of the opposite sex.The men had similar body type preferences, while the women had a more diverse range of responses, said lead researcher Dustin Wood.No wonder some women lie on their profiles, choosing a "few extra pounds" instead of "heavyset" or posting photos from younger, thinner years.
She included that she was a large woman (size 20) in her profile and posted photos, but typically when she reminded matches about her size, they'd say, "'Oh. That changes things.'" Cheryl Sellick, 54, of Cherryville, N.
C., who has been on and Plentyoffish.com, doesn't say she is a BBW (big beautiful woman), size 26, in her profile, but does post photos.
She sends the men an e-mail before meeting in person: "'I want to remind you I am a big beautiful woman. '" Some guys are gracious about it, she said, but "most of them are just gone." Sellick is now looking for matches on the Moreto dating site, and feels more comfortable knowing the men are looking for larger women.
Studies show that people who are overweight face discrimination in many areas, including work, education, health care and even from families and friends, according to Peggy Howell of the National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance. A Wake Forest University study earlier this year found that men find thin, seductive women the most attractive.
She said in one instance, a man flew a woman across the country for a meeting, was disappointed when he saw her and asked her to refund the price of the ticket, claiming he flew her there under false pretenses.
"With online dating, I think that people invest themselves with emotion and fantasy of who the other person is," said Triplett. When they actually see the person, taboo takes over.Simply being near someone who possesses a socially undesirable trait is enough to trigger fear of public outcry." Triplett suggests overweight women use a niche site like Moreto Love.com, BBPeople and Each day, sends Christie Hyde five potential mates based on preferences in her profile — age, height, education, religion, smoking.But then she reads "slender" or "athletic and toned" for their preferred body type. "It literally happens every day on that site," said Hyde, 33, who works in public relations in Daytona Beach, Fla. I am who I am." The dating show "More to Love" suggests that love comes in all shapes and sizes, but plus-size singles say their weight sometimes gets in the way of finding love online, even though two-thirds of Americans are overweight or obese.Cynthia Colby, 55, who works in multimedia marketing and promotions in Kitchener, Ontario, Canada, said she tried e Harmony and with no luck."Either I was overlooked or I would sometimes get someone who didn't read the part where I said how heavy I was," said Colby.