Unless you’re taking Barlow Girl’s stance on waiting till marriage (no dating until marriage), you’re probably going to date several people for various periods of time before you get married.
Secretly, your anger won’t be satisfied until you’ve brought them around to your way of thinking and shamed them for the times they stepped away from it. In fact, they their past, or your plan will work and they will feel really horrible about it. If they start defending their past, it’s going to push the two of you farther apart.
Their sudden righteous anger will turn your virginity into something that you’re holding over their head; they’ll stop valuing it and respecting you for it as much.
On the other hand, if they start feeling guilty about their past, then they didn’t deserve the beating you gave them.
They’re a person who really wants to make you happy and to be with you, and you feel bad for hurting them over something they can’t control now.
In a way, it feels like they cheated on you (and you can’t get it out of your head).
Unfortunately for them, they didn’t cheat on you, but they get treated as if they did.If you let all of your hurt, anger, and sense of injustice build up inside of you, you’re going to take it out on them whether you intend to or not. You’ll get irritable and won’t tell them what’s wrong.And maybe one day you’ll snap and call them a whore or accuse them of not taking sex seriously, etc.Say these words to them: “I’m sorry, the more I like you it just gets hard for me to think about your sexual past.It’s just been bothering me lately, but I’m working through it.I’m sorry for being so snippy.” Approach the discussion as if this was completely your problem, not theirs…. And now you’ve got only a faceless sea of everyone else to potentially date.