So, you write out a really long, thorough, detailed message to someone, and you send it -- and she never writes back.Confused and maybe a little miffed, you write her off as obviously not realizing what an awesome guy you are. e.g., it's like saying when you've got $10,000 invested in Stock A, and $0 invested in Stocks B, C, D, and E, you're more likely to put your next $100 into Stock A again because you know it and trust it and that's your routine.Obviously, she ain't that sharp of a gal to pass up a guy like you. When your broker tries to hard sell Stock E at you, you're likely to just tune him out and tell him you want to invest in Stock A again, unless he presents his message exactly right.
I don't usually start off a post with the impact points right at the beginning.
But I want to lay these out first -- because they're so vital to solid message writing -- and we'll get into the "whys" and the "hows" in a moment.
I was going to write about something else today -- I have a couple of big-concept posts I've been meaning to write up and get around to -- but, heck, the last post I put up was a big-concept post so I figured let's have a quick breather from that and get something a little lighter up first. I've been all too guilty of this myself -- sending super-long messages.
This topic came up as I got to an email from a reader. And what I found was that I was often disappointed -- I'd put all this time and effort into a monster of a message, and then... There are a bunch of lessons I eventually took away from those experiences that I'll share with you today.
A very well-spoken and clearly an educated guy, he sent me a message detailing a situation with a girl he knew... The basic gist of today's post is, basically, that this -- what we're about to talk about -- is how you write online dating messages and emails that don't get ignored...
and, in fact, get you exactly what you want: responses, phone numbers, dates, and success.I like to be thorough, and I like to cover all the points.If you've read many articles on this site, I'm sure you already realize this. You know, people who don't know you from Jack -- you may be an exceptional human being, but they just don't know that yet.They prefer the known over the unknown; they stick with what they're comfortable with.And when you're a stranger, you're neither known nor comfortable.Hence, the importance of solid email writing and online dating messages. When it comes to message construction, these are your primary considerations: do so -- she just won't be willing to put the work in.