Dating isn’t really a game at all and is straightforward and uncomplicated.No ladies, the concept of dating several guys in France kind of goes out the window once you seal the deal with a kiss. If you’re out in a rowdy bar and everyone is just looking to have a good time, this rule might not apply.But if you’ve gone out with a guy a few times and you haven’t kissed him yet, think things through before you plant one on him under the Eiffel Tower for fun.
Tom is the only French guy I’ve ever dated, so I had it easy when it came to the whole French dating game. Our relationship developed from genuine friendship and wasn’t rushed or forced.
He’s really easy going, spoke a good level of English when we met and was familiar with American culture from TV and movies (and what did I know about French dating culture at the time? But as time went on and we discovered more about dating customs in our respective countries, we felt lucky to have found each other and just let things work naturally.
The “rules” and differences between French and American dating culture are definitely there, but if you don’t know about them, you might end up hurt and confused or leave someone else feeling that way.
So here’s a handy guide on some of the things you need to know about dating a French guy.
In the French guy’s mind, that kiss means you want to be his girlfriend and be exclusive.
To you, things might be more casual and you view him as just one of the guys you’re dating, but watch out.It would probably confuse him if he saw you with someone else a few days later.If you’ve found a keeper, want to test the waters, or are just curious…When Tom and I first started dating, I didn’t know any of these French dating rules and found them out after or through others who were dating French guys.Every relationship is different, though, so please don’t take my little guide below as the end all and be all of French dating.To me, it seems that French guys are more direct without all the mind games.